Archive for the 'Love in the Time of Facebook' Category

The Secret of Crushing

Monday, June 27th, 2011

by Anastasia Strgar

We’ve all been there- one minute we’re going about our lives as we’ve been doing day after day and the next we meet someone who we think is maybe the most amazing thing since sliced bread. They can do no wrong and we’re attracted to them like moths to flames. All we can think about is whether this other person feels the same way about us- do they feel the earth move, the lightning crack, whenever we’re in each other’s presence. At that point we’re not sure what to do- unsure as to make a move or allow the other person to do so. If we move too quickly (or at all) we might lose them… So how do you know?

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A Tribute to Those Who Have Passed

Tuesday, June 21st, 2011

by Anastasia Strgar

“All goes onward and outward. Nothing collapses. And to die is different than what anyone supposed… And luckier. They are alive and well somewhere, the smallest sprout shows there really is no death and if ever there was, it lead forward to life…” -Walt Whitman

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Embracing Your Partner’s Community

Wednesday, June 15th, 2011

by Anastasia Strgar

Remaining friends with your friends is just as important as being friends with your partner, which is why it is essential that these two parties meet and become acquainted with one another once it’s clear that you two are together. It’s been said that the friends you have are a good reflection of yourself, which is why getting to know your partner’s friends can actually give you really accurate information about who they really are. This is particularly nice if you haven’t known your partner for very long.

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Remaining Friends In Love

Monday, June 6th, 2011

by Anastasia Strgar

We’ve all heard that it’s best to be friends before you start dating someone. And don’t we all wish that we could live out the fantasy that, years later we’d run into our childhood best friend, realize that  we’re meant to be and think “Wow, I’m so happy that I’m in love with my best friend” or know someone for years and always secretly have a crush on them and then suddenly one day, it turns out they’ve had a crush on you all along? The different scenarios go on and on- and while the fantasy is nice, it doesn’t always turn out that way.

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Loving in the Present

Monday, May 30th, 2011

By Anastasia Strgar

“It is only possible to live happily-ever-after on a day-to-day basis.”  ~Margaret Bonnano

This morning, when Arlo and I were waiting for our coffee, he told me how much this week of school is stressing him out. It’s Dead Week and so finals are close, which means serious studying for anyone still in school. I turned to him and told him, “Just do today. There really isn’t anything past today anyway and if you can just do it day by day, it won’t be as bad.”

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Why “Space” isn’t Necessarily Bad

Friday, May 27th, 2011

by Anastasia Strgar

In the recent movie Letters to Juliet Amanda Seyfried says to her fiancé that the relationship isn’t working because when they went on their honeymoon they spent most of their time separately. “We should want to be together all the time.” And while the relationship ultimately failed for many a reason, this romantic comedy helps to instill the cultural ideology that loving someone should mean you want to be with them all the time.

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Love in the Time of Facebook

Tuesday, May 24th, 2011

by Anastasia Strgar

“Change is a funny thing. We’re never quite sure of what we’re becoming or why. Then one day, we look at ourselves and wonder who we are and how we got there.” -Unknown

The nature of the current day relationship has changed. Infused with increasing technology invented to build and sustain relationships such as social media and online dating, along with the tragic endings of real life relationships that characterize the relationship models of many Gen-X and Gen Y babies, love in the time of Facebook looks different and acts different, but ultimately, at its core, these new, modern relationships remain the same. People who choose to engage in relationships are all seeking to be seen by another, wishing to be accepted for who they are and who they are not, and struggling to stay together, despite the fact that we live in a culture that treats those in sustained relationships unforgivingly.

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