There are as many ways to think about love as there are people who love. The Daily Love Lenses provides a home for some of the best love writers on the web. This column will offer new views from a wide range of authors who specialize in creating healthy and vital intimate relationships.

We hope with this wide range of fresh views on what love and intimacy mean and how they work you will inspire you and keep your eyes open for the love surrounding you.

Recent Posts

The Power of Positive Relationships

September 12th, 2011

By Carl Frankel

Our culture specializes in compartmentalization. In medicine, for instance, we have cardiologists, dermatologists, orthopedists and so on.

We do this vis-à-vis our relationships, too. We tend to think of them as distinct from the rest of our lives, but this is only partly true. Our relationship strategies are a subset of our life strategies. By and large, we’re as successful at our relationships as we are at life.

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9/11: Where is the Love?

September 9th, 2011

“People killin’, people dyin’
Children hurt and you hear them cryin’
Can you practice what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek…”

-Black Eyed Peas “Where is the Love?” (2003)

My most vivid memories of 9/11 were of the phone calls in the tragic last moments of people’s lives. Their final acts were all directed in desperation to communicate the love they felt for their partners, their children and their families. The love they felt was all they had to say. “Please always remember how much I love you.”  This was the phrase that filled the airwaves out of the planes and in the towers before they fell. There were no calls for revenge among the victims, their trauma and fear of their impending death dissolved into love; it was the only message that the victims wanted to leave behind.

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Fundamentals of Ecosex: What’s Sustainable Sex Got to do With World Peace?

September 8th, 2011

by Tinamarie Bernard

The emerging field of ecosexuality takes cues from many viewpoints and philosophies. There are the practical aspects, like using eco-friendly lubrication, or eating the right sort of foods. Equally important to the fundamentals of ecosexuality is the idea of consciousness; that every choice we make has an impact on the planet and ourselves. In order for humanity to birth itself to the next level of awareness, we must visualize a future that is compatible with the values of love and peace, sexual healing and freedom, and global planetary stewardship.

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Fall in Love Again

September 7th, 2011

by Anastasia Strgar

Falling in love is so great, isn’t it? You can’t see the other person’s faults and you are merely open and engaged in their best qualities. They are funny, charming, honest, respectful and truly interested in getting to know you… You want to be a better person for them because they’re so awesome.

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A Sunday Kind of Love

September 6th, 2011

by Jennie Gill Rosier

We’ve all been able to relate to Etta James in her song “Sunday Kind of Love” at some point in our lives. I’m sure that you’ve all felt felt like you “can’t seem to find someone to care” or like you’ve been on the “lonely road that leads to nowhere.” You’ve probably also felt like your search for that special someone was all-consuming at times, where you did your “Sunday dreaming and all your Sunday scheming every minute of every hour of every day.” The truth is: we all want a love to last past Saturday night; a Sunday kind of love.

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The Joy of Playing in Love

August 31st, 2011

by Anastasia Strgar

Okay, so I’ll just admit that recently I’ve started experimenting with fantasy when I make love. And I’ve discovered that I get amazing results. While I’m still pretty new at this and they haven’t really morphed out of setting me and my partner into different exotic scenarios, I find I feel sexier when I imagine us making love on a tropical beach or in a castle tower than simply in our bed.

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Putting Yourself First: A Guide for Women

August 30th, 2011

by Anastasia Strgar

Sometimes, I’ll admit, I kind of envy men… It seems like they’ve always had it all figured out. They’re used to putting themselves first. But usually women, especially young women like me, are so used to putting family, friends, or other people first, we have no idea what it is that will make us happy- or if we do we feel bad about wanting what we want. There is a difference, however in wanting what you want and needing to know all the answers because you’re afraid or you think that something outside of you will make you happy.

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Divine Intervention?

August 29th, 2011

by Elizabeth Spannuth

I have a new age-type friend that loves to tell me what to do. It is always under the guise of love and “divine guidance,” but it still feels like it did when my older sister would boss me around as a kid. She speaks with such absolute authority that her opinion is the only valid one that sometimes I get swept up in it, just as I used to do with my older sister. Yes! Eating ground hemp seed and spiralina is the only way to eat. Yes! I should start my shamanic training. Yes! I should learn to communicate telepathically with dogs.

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Becoming a Curator: Good Clean Love and Blissmo

August 26th, 2011

by Wendy Strgar

“I think art’s biggest potential is in its ability to produce ideas beyond the ideas contained within it, or the intended ideas, etc. A good curator can harness and direct those types of discursive potentials.”   -Matt Sheridan Smith

I have never been asked to be a curator before, but I like the idea that one who curates actually does the work of making a greater meaning out of unique items or experiences.  The Night Loving box that I helped Blissmo put together is a great deal on some beautiful products to enhance your love life, but it is more than that, too.  It is an opportunity to sanctify and honor what should be the best moments of your life with someone you love.

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10 Things Married Women Want

August 25th, 2011

By Tina Tessina

Women value intimacy, safety for themselves and their children, and emotional connection. Therefore, they long for the following qualities in a man:

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