About The Book

Wendy’s first book, built around years of her Sustainable Love writing, tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and creating healthy intimate lives. Critics have acclaimed that Love That Works is an essential handbook for the daily practice of learning to cultivate the renewable resources of loving relationships and family.

Wendy emphasizes that “committed relationships work best when we approach them as a method of personal growth.” Ultimately, our loving relationships are the most gentle and effective education we can engage in to become the person we want to be.  By creating an ecology in which love can thrive and be sustainable, we learn to strengthen the bonds that allow our relationships to support us to move through the challenges that life presents.  Understanding that a vital sexual life is the result of paying attention to the other elements (how we think, communicate and keep promises) that make relationships resilient is the foundation for enduring intimacy.

The book is designed so that readers can learn about any piece of the ecology that meets their needs at the moment.  The sub chapters are made up of anecdotal relationship stories and a little wisdom about how to shift your thinking in small ways to sustain your relationship.   The main premise of the book is that committed relationships work best when we approach them as a method of personal growth.  Ultimately our loving relationships are the most gentle and effective education we can engage in to become the person we want to be.  By creating an ecology in which love can thrive and be sustainable, we learn to strengthen the bonds that allow our relationships to support us to move through the challenges that life presents.  Understanding that a vital sexual life is the result of paying attention to the other elements (how we think, communicate and keep promises) that make relationships resilient is the foundation for enduring intimacy.

 

Excerpt: “We all live in a laboratory of love-if we are awake. Every day, there are opportunities to learn to love the people who inhabit your world. Some days it comes out looking just like you planned. Some days, the relationship is so far off that it is barely recognizable. Most days, we all live somewhere in between striving to see the best in others and to act from the best in ourselves.”