Comments on: Sex Blogs and Identity

By: Steven

Steven — Mon, 18 Oct 2010 18:14:29 +0000

Yes – it is strange that you participate in the sex industry and are willing to ply wares that pertain to sexual practices and presumably gain income from the same, and at the same time exhibit unease with more explicit representations or descriptions of sexual acts.

But atg the same time, it is to be expected.

Our culture generally looks favorably upon the commodification and exploitation of almost anything (including sex) as long as its for profit. Our culture also habitually divides professional from personal life. And our culture has a default understanding of sex that is rather conservative – seeing sexuality as essentially a private and cloistered affair.

So yes, its strange that you are making a living off sex-related products but are uncomfortable with explicit representations of it. But you are not unusual. This strangeness is endemic to our culture.

By: Patrice Swift

Patrice Swift — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 04:36:02 +0000

Wendy is the real deal. She speaks the truth about her own feelings and the things she has learned and wondered about and struggled with in her own relationship and in what she has learned from others. It is not about sex as much as it is about sex within the relationship between two people who are in love. And this is a very thorny topic because it encompasses so much stuff in all of us. But it is an honest subject and she is honest in how she talks about it.

The thing Wendy said about how hard it is to get in touch with your own fantasies when you have all these other people’s voices and fantasies in your head from our culture is so true. And because so much “fantasy” is really based around the exploitation of women, it makes it even harder for authentic sexy thoughts and fantasies to feel good…to feel clean if you will! I think you just have to follow your heart and know what makes you feel uncomfortable and what turns you on….and then look into your lover’s eyes and trust. If you can do that and feel safe then all the outside static and inauthentic “sexploitation” can begin to fall away.

This is the first time I have ever written a blog! On anything…much less this topic. So there you go.

Having met Wendy and then enjoyed her products with my husband of 31 years, her thoughts and offerings on relationships have been amazing to me. It has enabled me to enjoy our sexual relationship in ways I never could. That is a gift. From my heart to yours, Wendy, you are a special and wonderful woman. Keep on writing and making those wonderful products.

Patrice

By: Cliff Etzel

Cliff Etzel — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 16:15:27 +0000

One aspect I like about your postings Wendy is that there is a sense of authenticity in what you write. You write from the heart so to speak, and so I come back each time my google page has a new posting from your RSS feed. To me it sounds as though these bloggers write more graphic content – which can be a detriment instead of an asset. And the question needs to be asked – is what they post genuine or along the lines of the fake questions being asked like in my adolescent days of Playboy – just to bring in readership???

It’s your authenticity that I have come to know you for – please don’t change it.

Hope you’re keeping warm and happy friday!