Comments on: The Affairs of Men

By: Carmen Parton

Carmen Parton — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 04:52:06 +0000

Hi I am Carmen. I like your blog. Today many married men affair in their life

By: Reed

Reed — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 06:08:55 +0000

It takes two to tango… For Weiss to write this book he must, I make up, be married to a sexual anorexic. He is likely to be a sex and love addict (i.e. Spitzer). He and his wife are the Yin and Yang, the two opposite ends of the rainbow. Until they both explore their issues; their coupleship will not be satisfying for either one of them.

By: Denise

Denise — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:20:55 +0000

“European women endure their suffering silently, but they suffer from infidelity just the same. ”

So… do men suffer like women when their wife is cheating on them? Is it the same kind of suffering? Why is it always the women who suffer when their men cheat? What about when they cheat?

Bottom line, it’s all about living in truth. I believe couples heal from lots of betrayals. Betrayals come in all shapes and sizes. But healing does not happen w/o truth.

I have a friend who was in a poly relationship. Her male partner was into it. (whoa, what a surprise). She called me once heartbroken because the night before he had ‘hit’ on a close friend of hers who she explicitly asked him not to ‘hit’ on. She cried and cried. I asked if the ‘poly-thing’ was working from her end. (ahem). She said she doesn’t really want another man. She loves him. So, what this came down to was her feeling betrayed and minimized.

It just doesn’t work. At least, not for me. And, not for her either, apparently.

This is an excellent blog. Keep up the great conversation.

By: Leslie Ann Farrar

Leslie Ann Farrar — Mon, 26 May 2008 03:04:53 +0000

When I told my husband, Fred about the Phillip Weiss article in the New Yorker Magazine, I expected him to agree with the author and defend a man’s right to have numerous affairs.

Fred said, “That’s all bullshit!” regarding the content of the New Yorker article. His point was that anyone can make a case for anything if he/she wants to rationalize their own (aberant) behavior.

YIKES!! Gotta’ love a man like that!

By: Brandy

Brandy — Fri, 23 May 2008 22:18:49 +0000

I just wanted to say that I really love this blog and the article that inspired you. I feel that it truly hits on an issue that is important in any relationship now. I can not tell you how many friends that I have talked to living the single life because they are afraid of facing this very issue and the pain that it has caused in previous relationships. In my own relationship, I have found that the one issue that has constantly held me back from fully loving my partner has been my fear that one day the inevitable will happen, he will have an affair with someone who is not me in anyway. It was only recently that I was able to let go of this fear, and doing so cause our relationship to deepen in a way I never imagined. It has been one of the most freeing experience in my life and in the growth of my relationship. It has also spurred conversations with many of my friends who are still lost in that state of fear, and like myself when I was in that place, they can not imagine that letting go of that fear could ever happen, or that it is even possible to not find the situation an inevitable part of participating in a serious long term relationship.