Comments on: Healing Conflicting Desire

By: Ruth

Ruth — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 04:39:50 +0000

Thanks. Now I see that the trust issue we have is causing me to be unable to orgasm. Not sure this trust issue can be fixed. What is holding me back from either communicating my concerns or moving on?

By: K. Kubic

K. Kubic — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 05:30:23 +0000

I’m disappointed that you use the term “sexophrenic” (think schizophrenic). Schizoprenia is not a “split” at all and is a misconception that the general public has about this illness. There are no “multiple personalities” involved. It is an insult to all people who deal with this on a daily basis to use this term in such a manner.

By: Michele

Michele — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 03:11:03 +0000

When I first met my now 2nd husband I was truely amazed at how compatible we were in bed and how quickly and deeply I fell in love with him – I still feel the same way after 5 years together. After the first two years our lovemaking was still mind blowing although it did become apparent that my sex drive was greater than his. My husband told me that he would never ask me for sex and that unless he was unwell he would always “oblige”. Wow – did that do my head in !!!!! It was everything any female would want – to be in control of when we had sex, ie. only when I wanted it. Five years on I still struggle to get my head around this concept. The positive is we only have sex when I want it and therefore my man never feels rejected – and I have never been rejected either lol. The negative is I rarely get into bed to be greated by a nice “woody” and therefore don’t experience that feeling of being desired. I do think the positive outweights the negative but sometimes being in control isn’t as great as it sounds.

Thanks for a wonderful and enlightening website – I always enjoy reading your page.