Making Love Sustainable Podcast with Wendy Strgar

Dr. Rick Hanson on Peace of Mind

wendy — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 22:14:13 +0000

Dr. Rick Hanson, author of Just One Thing and Buddha’s Brain, joins us for the 13th episode of The Opening Door. In this excerpt, he explains the power of recognizing that you are alright, right now.

Visit us at TheOpeningDoor.com to listen to the full interview.

Dr. Robert Enright on How to Begin the Work of Forgiveness

wendy — Tue, 11 Dec 2012 21:25:28 +0000

Dr. Robert Enright, Founder of the International Forgiveness Institute and author of The Forgiving Life, joins us for the 12th episode of The Opening Door. In this excerpt, he explains how to begin the work of forgiveness. Visit us at TheOpeningDoor.com to listen to the full interview.

Dr. Tammy Nelson on Empathy

wendy — Tue, 04 Dec 2012 20:39:21 +0000

Dr. Tammy Nelson, noted sex therapist and author of Getting the Sex You Want, joins us for the 11th episode of The Opening Door. In this excerpt, she explains how sexual empathy can enhance your relationship. Visit us at TheOpeningDoor.com to listen to the full interview.

Marianne Williamson on Energy & Science

wendy — Tue, 04 Dec 2012 20:18:03 +0000

Marianne Williamson, internationally acclaimed spiritual author and lecturer, joined us on the 10th episode of The Opening Door. In this excerpt, she shares her take on matter, energy and science. Visit us at TheOpeningDoor.com to listen to the full interview.

Podcast 22: Science Of The Kiss

wendy — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 10:00:37 +0000

“A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.” Ingrid Bergman

I love to kiss. When I think back to living in France in my 20s, the most memorable part of my time there was all the kissing that occurred. I got to kiss everyone: strangers, friends and of course, lovers. Participating in that social ritual that demanded that one come in close was what I missed most when I left. I had no idea that there was a science and study of kissing when I started this article and I must admit that I feel a bit miffed that we can consecrate a science to kissing, philematology, and people still balk at the idea of loveology. Still, the more I learn about kissing, the more legitimate the science becomes. Kissing is the building block of intimacy. Done with intention and passion, the kiss is the most profound of all our communication devices and the pathway to sustaining loving relationships.

Podcast 21: What We Love About Sex

wendy — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 18:00:46 +0000

“Sex lies at the root of life, and we can never learn to reverence life until we know how to understand sex.” Henry Ellis

Appreciating the joys of living in a body of flesh and blood literally begins with the euphoric recognition of what it is to be a sexual being. From the tiniest of sensations on the skin to the perfectly placed nerve endings in our most erogenous zones, we are bodies molecularly designed to experience profound pleasure, deep connection and the ability to procreate all within the same remarkable, mysterious, life changing act. This month we invite you to explore with us the wonders of what we love about sex.

Podcast 20: Fountain of Youth

wendy — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 18:00:04 +0000

“An inordinate passion for pleasure is the secret of remaining young.” -Oscar Wilde

One of my best memories of the recent sex therapy conference that I recently attended was when I met the 84 year old grandmother of one of the PhD students attending the conference. Actually, she was accompanied by both her mom and sister too and the whole family was being interviewed about the “hottest thing” they saw in Phoenix at this AASEC T conference. The grandmother said in her slow and steady Midwestern accent, that “she must be the hottest thing there, as she has been loving sex for most of her 84 years.” When I asked her if her if she thought her sex life kept her young, she responded, “Well, maybe when I am having it.”

Podcast: 19: Tied In Knots

wendy — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 18:00:24 +0000

“Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Life is made of moments of unraveling. There are good reasons everyday that things come undone, but perhaps none so painful as the un-doing of our most intimate relationships. It is easy to understand how living with the difficult emotions of disappointment, embarrassment and the irritation and resentment associated with loving people up close, can bring out the least attractive parts of ourselves. And how in turn this most difficult emotional space can impact our ability to stay loving and present in the relationships we have chosen.

Podcast: 18: The Biology of Affairs

wendy — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 22:19:03 +0000

“We always deceive ourselves twice about the people we love – first to their advantage, then to their disadvantage.” Albert Camus

Most people who have affairs will say that they don’t know how it happened. Extramarital affairs are rarely consciously planned; they happen as life often does, with one thing leading to another. Evolutionary psychologists, in attempts to understand human behavior as prevalent as infidelity, have found some interesting patterns that suggest that our biology might again be the leader in our life choices.

The percentage of people impacted by infidelity is between 30-60% of all married couples, depending on the study cited. More interesting than the differing rates of occurrence for men and women are the different patterns of infidelity for each gender.

Cheating men are more likely than cheating women to have an affair with someone younger than their spouse. On the other hand, cheating women are more likely than cheating men to have an affair with someone better educated than their current spouse.

Podcast: 17: The Grass is Greener

wendy — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 00:10:36 +0000

If ever an expression defined human behavior, it is the notion that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Ovid, an ancient Roman philosopher and poet was perhaps the first when he said that “the harvest is always more fruitful in another man’s fields.” This sense that life is better for others has perhaps its strongest and most debilitating hold on us as it affects our relationships. Infidelity, the most cutting breach of trust that we experience in our intimate relationships is rampant. It is so common that not having some form of the experience is uncommon. While the stories of infidelity are as unique as the millions of people who engage in them – our shared human biology, emotional needs and the thinking errors that allow them – are universal.

http://local.goodcleanlove.com/cms/index.php/newsletters/earth/262-the-grass-is-greener

Podcast: 16: Clearing the Air & Fighting For Your Love

wendy — Fri, 29 May 2009 17:30:48 +0000

Wind power is one of the fastest growing alternative energy sources available. What could be cleaner than capturing the power of the moving air and turning it into energy?

Podcast: 15: First Love Yourself

wendy — Sat, 09 May 2009 01:30:45 +0000

Sometimes we give up one kind of balance for another. Our work lives take over our personal life, new families take over old exercise routines, and sometimes our love life can take over all of it. Losing our balance over love can be fun. Actually that “in love, out of control craziness” of deep connection can be like a drug, blurring our vision so that the world has a rosy hue and commitments to any thing other than our beloved are hard to keep.

Podcast: 14: Love And Balance

wendy — Sat, 02 May 2009 00:30:13 +0000

Podcast: 13: Love Drills

wendy — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 00:30:15 +0000

Love takes practice. Love is an action verb that is skill based; our capacity to love is the source of our genius, the inspiration for our creativity, and the essence of what roots us to the earth. Seeing our relationships in terms of a practice of love drills is a helpful approach that can keep your heart open and willing to try again, even after the inevitable hurts that define human relating. Rilke said that “the ultimate, the last test and proof of our humanity, the work for which all other work is but preparation, is for one human being to love another.” So in preparation for Valentine’s Day, commit to the truth that you were born to love and know that you have the capacity to love more skillfully, more courageously and with more tenacity than you ever imagined

Podcast: 12: Showing Up & Promises We Keep

wendy — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 01:30:27 +0000

When I teach about the Ecology of Love and talk about the water that lives between people I often use the term “showing up” to describe the flow that happens in relationships. In relationships, like the ocean, there is an ebb and tide to how we are present for each other, but if the water in the relationship is always out, then both people feel alone more often than they feel like there is someone at their back. Many people go through years in partnerships where the experience of loneliness is profound. It is something that I struggle with in my own marriage, each of us having a different sense of what togetherness means and how much of it we need.

Podcast: 11: Pain And Pleasure + Push Pull

wendy — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 00:30:48 +0000

There is an indescribable, yet palpable reality of sexual intimacy wherein the ecstatic release of deep pleasure balances and ignites an equal experience of pain. Loving someone emotionally creates the same pain/pleasure experience as making love to them does.

Podcast 10: The Real Work

wendy — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 22:30:29 +0000

“It may be that when we no longer know what to do we have come to our real work, and that when we no longer know which way to go we have come to our real journey. The mind that is not baffled is not employed. The impeded stream is the one that sings.”

- Wendell Berry

Podcast 09: The Next Sexual Revolution

wendy — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 22:30:52 +0000

Sarah Palin’s daughter is not the only one for whom abstinence education didn’t work. Despite the millions of dollars invested in “abstinence-only” education for youth, both teen pregnancy and birth rates have jumped up in the US after a 15 year decline. Just as our sexual attitudes and beliefs were stretched wide open by the younger generation of the 60′s, our children are demanding and creating a new kind of sexual dialogue to fill the void that our sanctioned teach them nothing approach has created. Education is the path that the future is built upon. We cannot expect different results when we keep providing the same or less information.

Podcast 08: Core Vitality

wendy — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 22:30:39 +0000

We take our vitality for granted. The strength of our life force impacts not only our overall physical health, but often acts as a primary filter for our emotional life and how we interpret the events that make up our days. Often we also bear witness to the strength of our life force in our sexual lives. When we are feeling vitally alive, colors are brighter, our thinking is more acute and our emotional life is stable. Our sexuality is heightened and readily available for exploration.

Podcast 07: The Edge of Forgiveness

wendy — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 00:29:10 +0000

Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past. It is the path of redemption where life can move forward from the present moment, where the past fades with memory and we have the internal space to accept the daily imperfections of life with those we love as they are. It is a true forgetting, this forgiveness that frees the victim as deeply as the perpetrator.

Podcast 06: The Mysterious O

wendy — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 00:23:41 +0000

Like many sexual discussions which rarely or never happen in the midst of our most intimate relationships, yet proliferate the airwaves and video content of adult entertainment, most people have an extremely limited language to work with when it comes to orgasm.

Podcast 05: Push Pull

wendy — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 00:21:56 +0000

Push and Pull – Do you understand the push-pull phenomenon that drives most relationships? Do you even know what side you’re on? Here are some ideas to begin to relate to the pendulum swings and follow your heart to balance in love.

Podcast 04: Business Of Love

wendy — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 00:18:21 +0000

Learn how negative thinking about relationships (be it from culture or old ideas of our own) limit the possibilities of growth and happiness within relationships of all kinds.

Podcast 03: Penetration

wendy — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 00:13:18 +0000

Language is the metaphor we use to communicate our deepest feelings. A couple’s sexuality is the most profound vehicle of communication of all. The words we use and our physical language of love define our love experience.

Podcast 02: A Conversation Without Words

wendy — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 19:00:03 +0000

I urge all of my closest friends to explore an entirely different dialogue, one where the spoken word is left outside the door, and the conversation is lead and answered with what some would argue is our true intelligence- the body.

Podcast 01: Making Love Sustainable

wendy — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 19:00:39 +0000

Understanding that the huge amounts of trust, time and loving intention that we invest in our early relationships are actually renewable resources, provides us with the motivation to create new strategies to maintain them.