I can see it up close right now- how my overwhelming grief over the loss of my dear dog companion, Coco, brings me to despair with regret. Last night, I was awake again in the middle of the night, my hot flashes are always worse when I am exhausted and emotional and I lay in the darkness in the deafening silence of Coco’s absence. She had become a louder sleeper over the last many months of her long life. I had even learned how to breathe through her gas emissions. But many times, I would toss and turn fitfully, imagining, how quiet it would be when she was gone.
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I travel a lot. Way more than I want to. My trips are all about meetings with buyers from different stores or conferences or meetings with people to help grow Good Clean Love. Ostensibly, I want to do all those things, but the going and coming is exhausting and un-nerving. After multiple boardings and de-boardings I usually find myself in a rental car driving through cities I have never been to, and even sometimes across state lines I have never crossed. I can’t say how happy I am on these days to have the company of the Google Maps girl. As far as I am concerned this is the biggest triumph of the digital age.
There is probably not a single more important intention that I begin my days with than this one. It is in fact, the one that makes all the others possible. When my son was looking through my affirmation book and came across this one, he commented, “pretty religious” but in truth, it isn’t a religion thing. Prayer is actually a way of opening and asking. It is like a to-do list on heart steroids.
If you had to choose only one positive emotion to rely of for the rest of your life, gratitude would be the one to pick. For me, it is a constant re-learning of how to refocus my attention to what is working, what is beautiful, and what is present all the time. Remembering gratitude is a way out of the dark into a kind of thinking that connects you to reality.
I could use a few more instructional affirmations for this one. And I don’t think that I am the only one who gets stuck in the past. Our unresolved issues don’t just disappear with the circumstances, rather they take up residence somewhere in our body until we take the time and attention to listen to what aches in us. I have been dedicated to this work of late, revisiting painful childhood memories that I forgot I had.
A couple of years ago I was asked to give a class at our local cancer treatment facility. It began with a request for our organic products that can be tolerated by people even in the most sensitive times in their lives, but turned into what became one of the most beautiful courses on how love and positivity can and does heal us.
I learned as much as I taught in this class of 6 women, many of whom were still in treatment or waiting to see if their treatments would hold. During that time and in the months that followed what I learned most was how little support there is for many people challenged with life threatening illnesses. Many don’t have access to the most basic needs like healthy food.
If you haven’t yet seen the Heisman trophy acceptance speech by Marcus Mariota, give yourself a moment of cheer and watch what real love looks like. He is living proof that real leaders are not born, but rather made through the grace of being loved. I live in Eugene, OR and college football is how we are known, if we are at all throughout the country. Phil Knight’s Nike has long made us the fashion statement of the league, with enough uniforms to outfit ten schools, but there is nothing like true leadership when it comes to a winning trajectory.
“I let go of past circumstances easily and painlessly.” This one takes practice, but the more I embrace it, the more I can easily slip into what is right in front of me and the less old stories impact my days. I have recently made a breakthrough in this space when a friend/ teacher shared with me how these old habitual mental patterns from the past were actually magnetizing the negative energy I was working so hard to discharge.
Believing in one’s own capacity is everything if you want to keep growing and learning. Facing the obstacles and challenges that come are part and parcel of the growth process is only sustainable if you truly do trust yourself and your capacity to stay in the game while you figure it out.
Good Clean Love is deep in the process of fulfilling its own potential and its success is linked to my ability to do the same. Although there are many days that feel bigger than me, and more often than not, I am not the leader I aspire to be. Wanting to do it and believing that I am capable gives me the courage to try again, to take a rest and come back to it, to look at it from another angle.
Loving acts change us only when we are able to witness and receive them. In contrast, when we don’t actively perceive and accept the loving intentions of those around us, they lose their potency quickly and can even lead to conflict. It is more common than not for people to miss loving acts completely because their powerful filters of what they expect love to look and feel like dismiss loving acts completely.