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Positivity Quest Affirmation 5: Flowing Abundance of Gratitude

Friday, November 7th, 2014

deadseaThere is something magical and unique about the felt experience of gratitude.  I have come to believe that  it is as close as we get in our daily lives to an ecstatic connection to the divine. Experiencing the goodness surrounding us viscerally with the practice of feeling gratitude awakens and opens our heart, while simultaneously creating the lightness of joy.

For many years, in fact for most of my life,  I had no idea or access to this deeply  personal experience of deep gratitude. When I would express gratitude, it was in words only,  a formality that was returned after a kindness offered. What I learned when I began to actively study how gratitude works within us  is that  you have be able to receive to feel grateful.

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Positivity Quest: Affirmation 4- Money, People and Resources…

Monday, November 3rd, 2014

gratitude1“Believing you have enough is the beginning of having enough.”


Every day in the in-between space of sleeping and waking, I repeat to myself, “I have enough money, resources and people to achieve my and Good Clean Love’s fullest potential.” I don’t start repeating this until I have awoken with a deep sense of gratitude about my life. I start with the easy and obvious – like feeling grateful for waking up in my bed next to my husband, with the cat purring on the end of the bed and the old dog snoring on the floor beside me. I give thanks for the people I love and for all the sweet, small comforts of having another day in this body, in this life.

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Positivity Quest: Affirmation 3

Thursday, October 30th, 2014

butterfly“If you wish for light, be ready to receive light.”  -Rumi


Years ago, when I had just begun this journey of creating the life I had longed for, a teacher gave me this affirmation, which I have been holding ever since-  “I am a joyful, grateful, excellent receiver.” At the beginning, I remember how awkward the words felt in my throat, how foreign the idea of being an active receiver was to me.  Since then, I have come to treasure this thought and, thankfully, even in times of deep stress, this has become a default space in my heart.

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Positivity Quest – Affirmation 2: I Trust Myself and What I Know

Wednesday, October 29th, 2014

loveiseverythingresized“Self trust is the first secret of success.”  -Ralph Waldo Emerson


Trusting what you know is the bedrock of befriending yourself.  Choosing the beliefs that ground you to your life is everything. Today, on my 53rd birthday, as I consider what I know for sure…

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Positivity Quest- Affirmation #1: I Love Myself

Tuesday, October 28th, 2014

balloongirl“All other love is extinguished by self-love; beneficence, humanity, justice, philosophy, sink under it.”  -Epicurus


I am not sure why I started with the most difficult of all affirmations to begin my book, and surely I am among many who read the words: “I love myself,” but can’t quite feel them.

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Positivity Quest: 100 Days of Affirmations

Monday, October 27th, 2014

153544668515142351_3fMV8Jz7_cAbout a month ago I got an interesting homework assignment from an energetic counselor that I work with. She asked me to make a set of 100 affirmation cards and to not only read them, but actually feel them every day. I had learned before that real change comes from what we fully experience as real. I spent days researching affirmations and then another day choosing and compiling the 100 that resonated most deeply. I glued them into an index card booklet and began the twice daily task of experiencing them each day.

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Positivity Again: Breaking Up

Friday, October 24th, 2014

snowgirlresizedLast night I got a text from my teenaged daughter’s ex-boyfriend. I like him so much, and am mourning her recent break-up with him. I saw it coming… as the balance of attraction and desire became lopsided, I knew that it was unlikely with their limited capacity to understand and express how things fell out of mutuality, that they would find their way back to each other. Once the scales tip,  small acts perpetuate the dance of pushing forward and pulling back, until no one knows how they got there.

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Positivity Again: The Protection of Generosity

Friday, October 3rd, 2014

HandsinSandGive it away. I remember reading one time that one of my favorite highly evolved spiritual teachers gave away anything that she had grown too attached to. I am not at that level in my own development, although I am turning a corner about understanding what things are worth. The truth is that the more you possess, the more time and energy it takes to maintain. And then at the end of a life of collecting stuff, either you or some innocent bystander in your life has the task of getting rid of it all.

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Positivity Again: Anchoring Gratitude

Wednesday, September 10th, 2014

forest2The first conscious thought I strive to have each day is a grateful one.

Lately I am awake at least a couple of times – in and out of weird, anxious dreams. So it is not unusual that my first thoughts are anxious too.  It is amazing how fast a couple of errant anxious ideas can spiral down into low grade rumination. Reminding myself through mediation to first create a grateful moment changes everything.

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Positivity Again: Grief As Gratitude

Friday, August 29th, 2014

butterflyI woke up crying today, listening to the soft breathing of my three kids filling the hotel room and remembering that this was the last morning in a long time that I would wake in the company of  us all together.  Today was the day I would drop my third child off for the beginning of his college years-  a day that I saw coming from years away but still cannot believe has already arrived. When we’re awoken by his musical alarm of “Kiss me” – a song that has been playing since he was a toddler, the golden weight of the past came rushing to me. Tears rolling down my face, I lay there realizing just how deeply blessed I am to be burdened with this particular grief.

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